Literally the only reasons people don’t like to call themselves “feminists” is because they associate the term with radical feminism, lesbianism, man-hating, a threat to the traditional husband-wife dynamic, and any other negative slant we see in our tv shows and the media, when put simply:
it’s the recognition that patriarchy exists, that women are generally treated as inferior, and that the ultimate goal is equality between the sexes.
Anything added to that are simply different theories of how to achieve that goal, be it by workers’ revolution, progressive laws, education, cultural revolution, or by accepting the innate differences between men and women (although I think that’s a bit counter-productive).
I have so many friends (including women) that believe in freedom, democracy, etc. but they would not call themselves “feminists”.
It’s just sad, very very sad.
Then maybe that’s why people are jumping ship, before these “radfems” do something irreconcilable and everyone associated with the label get crucified.
You can fight for equality without calling yourself a feminist. Who cares? As long as people are fighting for it.
But that’s what I mean, people associate feminism with radicalism and man-hating, which is limited.
If you’re for gender equality, and recognise there’s a gender inequality, then you’re a feminist. It’s as simple as that. How you define your feminism is up to you.
It’s no question that we’re all educated that women are equal and to respect them, but we also know the opposite is true: they still receive the most vilest hate when they say “there’s not enough women in ‘X’”, they’re now expected to work AND raise the children, and management and many other jobs tend to be dominated by men. Women are seen to be equal, but the point is that they’re in no way treated equal.
>If you’re for gender equality, and recognise there’s a gender inequality, then you’re a feminist.
That’s not how it works.
What you’re saying is the equivalent of someone saying:
>If you believe in god, and recognize there is a one true god, then you’re a christian.
You don’t get to force labels on people.
And I don’t even want to get into the whole “inequality” thing. At least in western countries, that’s not the case.
I’ll just address the women in X thing.
The reason they get hate when they say “there’s not enough women in ‘X’” is because odds are, there got that information from studying something like Women’s Science, or Gender Studies, instead of actually getting into one of those X careers. There’s literally nobody women from picking those careers. So instead of complaining that there aren’t enough women in X, maybe, they should’ve gotten in X to begin with, wait, maybe they don’t want to, that’s true, well, a lot of women don’t want to either, so respect that. There aren’t enough women in X because not enough women chose to be in there, and who are you to say that these women chose poorly?
There aren’t enough men in modeling, but you don’t see men complaining about it, because, you know, it’s a choice. There’s no outrage about the fact that a female model makes more than a male model either. (If someone could get me the info stating that women models make more than male models that would be super.)
It’s really not forcing labels, in its simplest terms feminism is accepting there’s a gender inequality that needs to be rectified. You obviously don’t think there is one, so you’re not a feminist. Easy.
Wanting gender equality is not synonymous with feminism, but understanding patriarchy exists and having the desire to change that is.
Also you’re analogy is completely wrong:
If you believe in a God, and accept there’s one true God, then you’re a theist. Not a Christian.
In this case, theism is the general belief in God, but religions are the different guides to action to that belief, just as feminism is the overall theory, and socialism, liberalism, and radicalism are the different theories towards gender equality.
That’s what feminism is by definition. But to reduce it to a bunch of gender studies graduates who love nothing more than a moan and who ‘just aren’t trying hard enough’ to get into certain job sectors is just over-simplistic. More to the point, even if they are ‘bitching about nothing’, does that make it ok that they still receive threatening messages?
In some sectors, yes some women are paid better and some sectors just don’t appeal to women. But I question how much of that is caused by growing up in society where they’re convinced that ‘manual labour’ isn’t for them. Look at the toy stores, girls are nudged in the direction of barbies, mini-kitchens and fairies, whereas boys are given toy guns, trains and tool-kits.
Men even have stereotypes to live up to as well (arguably more positive ones). But men should fight just as hard against pay differences and stereotypes because at the very end it’s about equality: Pay equality, Gender equality, and Equality of Opportunity.
Feminism benefits everyone as its goal is equality for all, not just women.